Being your worst critic can be a double edged sword. It can either help you, in the sense that it makes you question your work to improve it or it makes you hesitant to share it. In most cases I end up posting whatever piece it was, but there are times that I just completely scrap it and its then lost forever. Unknown the Critic, really does have a ring to it.
Since I started posting my pieces, from time to time, I get messages from fellow IGers, asking me for advice and critiques on some of their works. This usually becomes an inner quarrel. How am I to critique someone else if I’m so hard on myself. Who am I to critique when I feel my writing is just as flawed as anyone else’s. How can I give an honest critique, when there are times I have bashed myself into the ground and have nearly driven myself to give up. How?
I take a breathe and respond with the most honest answer you can receive from anyone.
“What do you think about your piece?”
I am more than happy to read anyone’s work. I am more than happy to give small tips and advice, but an honest critique should come from yourself. That is the only opinion that should matter when it comes down to the final say. No one else’s opinion on the subject matter or your views should matter. You wrote what you wrote because you felt you had to. You put the time and effort in for a reason, so there should be no reason why one person’s opinion should keep you from sharing that thought you want to share.
There are many talented people in the world. MANY. Some actually went to school to write, some spent their whole life expressing themselves through word and have mastered the art, others just rant. No matter who you are or what your experience is, just write and share. Not everyone is going to like it, Hell, I’m sure there will be more people that hate it than appreciate it, but it is still your heart on paper, and no one, I mean it, NO ONE, should keep you from writing and trying to better your craft.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THE NEGATIVE COMMENTS
It’s not so simple because it is such a mental tear down. One negative person’s words can completely break you down to the point that you feel you are not good enough and you want to quit. DON’T QUIT. Try to take those words and use them as fuel. Take them as advice in a sense. Take a bit of their critique, the pieces that grab you and use it. Yes the critique may be written or given to you in a “Dickface” manner, but hey everyone has their right to an opinion, and if you were asking for a critique you have to have the tough skin to take it and use it how you see fits. Yes you have to take it, but you don’t have to like it and you don’t have to let it break you apart. If you requested the critique, simply appreciate it and push yourself forward.
This blog post is not only meant for writing. This goes for writing, art, music, life. Take the critiques and advices as the grains of salt that season your thoughts, not spoil them.
Do not let critiques change you or your passion.
Do not let people’s negative views make you give up.
Do not give up on yourself.
Push yourself to be better, do better and feel better about your work.
The one critic that should ever matter, is You.
Unknown the Poet